We shall discuss the benefits of fear and how to overcome it. Fear pervades everything. It is applicable to everyone. It is one of the most powerful emotions any human has ever experienced. This is the reality! Fear is present in every aspect or area of human life. Fear is common when starting a business, investing in stocks, cryptocurrencies, bonds, or even enrolling in school and taking exams.
Standing on a highly elevated platform can be frightening. Others are afraid of animals, no matter how cute or tame they are. Others are afraid of taking the first step toward achieving the things, lifestyle, and dreams they have always desired.
Fear can have an impact on a person’s character and personality development, leading to either positive or negative outcomes. However, most of the time, fear prevents us from achieving positive results, which often leads to frustration, lack of confidence, extremely low self-esteem, and, worst of all, self-doubt.
This occurs because the person gave in to fear rather than confronting it. Fear is always misunderstood because of this. Fear is viewed as intimidating, powerful, and indestructible by those who lack confidence.
Regardless, fear is a powerful emotion to confront, but it is not insurmountable. There are many people in this world who have overcome fear and achieved high levels of confidence, courage, and self-trust. In this article, we will discuss how to develop confidence and the courage to confront fear.
Fear is a normal feeling that all of us have
“Fear is a natural and biological condition that all human beings experience,”1 says Dr. Zachary Sikora, a Northwestern Medicine Clinical Psychologist. That is an inevitable consequence of our human nature. We experience fear from the moment we are born until the day we die. A newborn baby is born fearful of loud sounds. Even adults are afraid that their last day in this world is approaching, though this fear diminishes with age.
In everyday life, our bodies react to any situation based on how we deal with fear. We may experience uneasiness and apprehension, worry, nervousness, or panic whenever we are in a place or position that we are unfamiliar with, are about to enter a place or position, or have been in a place or position that we are unfamiliar with.
It is natural to experience fear-related emotions because we, as humans, are vulnerable to harm. Our bodies have a tendency to react proactively, especially when we are uncertain or have completely lost control of what is going on around us. For this reason, we can say that fear is also essential for survival.
How to conquer fear
In some cases, fear prevents us from seeing things from a different perspective. There comes a time when you must make a formal decision to change your life or do something different in order to achieve different results. However, when it comes to taking action to achieve your goals or whatever you want to achieve, fear gets in the way. It will repeatedly tell that you will fail and you cannot do it.
You are incapable of dealing with it.
You lack the ability to produce positive results.
You simply cannot afford to lose money or time.
Or any false beliefs that would prevent you from trying.”
One of the things you must do in order to achieve any goal in life is to overcome your fear. The question is, how will you do it despite your fear of taking any small steps because of the unknown consequences?
Will Smith stated in one of his interviews that “fear is everything. The issue is that it is deceptive. So, if there is one concept with which people must deal on a daily basis, it is fear.
Fear, indeed, lies to you. It tells you that you can’t accomplish anything. It makes you realize that you can’t do anything you want. It prevents you from taking novel or unconventional steps to make a difference. Most of the time, people succumb to fear and accept whatever is said to them. So, my advice is to not let fear hold you back. Accept it with caution. Take it on! Put it to the test! Defeat it!
TW Walker wrote a book titled “How to Turn Your Fear Into Confidence.” He briefly explained that in order to overcome fear, one must first define and comprehend his fear.
Now, let’s look at three major steps to overcoming fear.
Define your fear
Defining your fear can help you understand its personality. In normal circumstances, it is simple to recognize fear. Someone may be afraid of heights (Acrophobia). He could be afraid of water (Aquaphobia) or something else that is obvious. However, it is confusing and terrifying when fear surprises you with a panic reaction that you do not understand.
One of the most effective, if not the most effective, ways to define your fear is to list your fears. You must recognize the times when you are afraid. You must identify the situations that cause you to be afraid. Determine what you are most afraid of: the fear of loss, the fear of rejection, or the fear of what others may think of you. Discover their similarities as well as the emotions you have experienced. Remember your reactions when you were caught off guard. Consider them all.
Find out the reason of your fear
Understanding the source of your fear is part of determining why you are afraid. After you’ve identified and defined your fear, the next step is to comprehend it. You must understand that our bodies generate fear through our brains. The amygdala is a part of the brain that is responsible for the generation of fear. So, fear is merely an illusion created by our brains. As a result, question the existence of anything that causes you fear.
Consider your previous experiences where you were afraid. You may have been scared by something in the past. I say this because people can develop fear by learning from the mistakes of others or by allowing themselves to perceive that a situation is potentially dangerous. One simple example is when parents used to tell their children that if they didn’t go to bed early, a “boogeyman” would appear and grab them. Fear was instilled in the children until they realized the “boogeyman” was a myth.
Examine your experience carefully when determining the source of your fear. Determine your emotions and how you reacted. For example, if you are afraid of heights, consider why you are afraid. Is it because you’re afraid of falling, or because you’re feeling dizzy? Make a list of the possible causes of your fear and confront it. The third step, which we will discuss below, is confrontation.
Confront your fear
Remember that most, if not all, fears can be overcome. All you have to do is practice confronting it with confidence. Assume that a person with trypanaphobia or syringe fear can confront it by mustering the courage to take an injection, regardless of the size of the syringe.
Every fear can be overcome. There is nothing you cannot overcome if you continue to fight. There are many people in this world who have faced and overcome fear. Will Smith is the first person who comes to mind when I think of confronting fear. Smith is terrified of heights. So, to overcome his fear, he went skydiving in Dubai.
There is no doubt that skydiving is one of the most effective ways to overcome fear. Despite the fact that he was terrified and that his body was shaking from the moment the plane flew as high as 14,000 feet above the ground, Smith faced his fear by jumping out of an airplane. Following that, confronting fear on a daily basis becomes his habit.
If you confront it, fear is not invincible. “Feel the fear and do it anyway,” Susan Jeffers’ book is titled.2 This is also something I would like you to do. Feel your fear while carrying out your responsibilities! Don’t give up, just keep moving.
When you face fear, you will realize that the point of greatest danger is also the point of greatest fear. So there’s no need to be afraid in the first place; all you have to do is do it!
The final step in conquering your fear is straightforward. That is simply confronting your fear as much as possible. Face it every day, every hour, or whenever fear arises.
The Benefits of Fear
Fear is one of the most misunderstood concepts in the world, but it is also one of the most powerful. Most people believe that fear brings adversity because it can cause significant harm in their lives. They only perceive fear as an intimidating, unbreakable, invincible concept that prevents them from becoming, having, or doing anything they desire.
This way of thinking is incorrect. As previously stated, fear lies because it only tells something that prevents someone from doing, trying, or even taking a new or different path. However, when fear is confronted and conquered, one will reap the benefits.
Let’s start with the notion that fear is harmful. People frequently do not want to feel fear or avoid it because of the perceived negative consequences. They only perceive fear as a source of negative energy in their lives. However, fear is only harmful when you run away from it. Fear, on the other hand, is beneficial when it serves as a warning that something dangerous or destructive is on its way.
Fear, if we practice mindfulness, will undoubtedly assist us in being prepared to deal with the potential harm that it sees. “It’s important that we experience fear because it keeps us safe,”3 Dr. Sikora explained. In contrast, Gavin De Becker claims in his book “The Gift of Fear” that fear is a gift because it provides warning signs of impending violence. People can avoid harm by learning and recognizing these signals. In short, fear protects us as well.
Let’s look at what’s on the other side of fear. “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear,” George Addair said.4 “God placed the best things in life on the other side of terror, on the other side of your maximum fear, or all of the best things in life,” Will Smith said.5
These quotations are correct. Fear appears to be too powerful on the surface, but once overcome, the benefits that it may bring will begin to emerge and appear in front of the person who is ready to receive them. Conquering fear may lead to increased confidence and courage. These continue to accumulate with each defeat of fear. Courage and confidence are the most valuable outcomes of confronting and overcoming fear.
How to practice courage and build confidence
Before you can practice courage and confidence, I believe you must first understand their meaning and relationship. Courage, in its most basic definition, is the behavior of continuing despite the presence of fear, whereas confidence is the belief that one can do it.
People cannot develop confidence unless they have the courage to act. Every time a person faces a difficult situation with courage, their confidence grows. Courage grows in tandem with confidence. Conversely, when a person lacks the courage to accept the truth and try something new, his or her confidence suffers.
When one’s confidence wanes, so does one’s courage. The question now is, how can one practice courage and confidence? There are numerous ways to develop courage and confidence, but I will only discuss a few that I believe are essential.
But first, let me share with you my simple confidence principle. “If you want to feel confident, just act and look confident,” it says. Even if you are doubting yourself, always face everything with your head held high. Let’s start with the most basic way to practice courage and confidence: acknowledge your fear.
This is the most important and most difficult thing to do in the early stages of becoming courageous. Why? Because it takes courage to recognize fear and choose to act against it. Repressing oneself to avoid fear will only make fear scarier and larger. Allow yourself to feel it. Accept its presence by sitting with it.
Do not shy away
If you keep running away from fear, nothing good will happen. Every time you succumb to your fear, it will grow larger and more powerful. If you do nothing and continue to drift away from it, you will most likely never be able to see your capabilities. You will never have the courage to act because you are unaware of your capabilities.
You can never build confidence if you don’t have the courage. So confront your fear right now. It is preferable to punch your fear with your shaky hand while closing your eyes and realizing that you are far more powerful than it than to live comfortably with it every day with no idea of how far you can go.
Face your fears. It must be defeated. You will gain courage once you have conquered it. Unconsciously, you will gradually begin to build your confidence.
Challenge your fear
Challenging your fear on a daily basis will help you maintain and even acquire more confidence in yourself. You are going to have a far more positive opinion of yourself if you are successful in overcoming a challenge or a phobia that you have. If you have more confidence in yourself, you will see that there is no limit to what you can do.
This sort of sensation will assist you in being more courageous, and it will undoubtedly assist you in gaining confidence in ways that you could not have anticipated. So, you should keep pushing through your fear.
Fear is a natural part of life. Fear of something we perceive to be harmful is a natural reaction. It keeps us safe in this particular situation, which is a good thing. That is the biological purpose of fear. But, while it can be beneficial, it can also be one of our greatest challenges in life. It can be the greatest impediment to seizing the greatest opportunity that life has to offer.
Everybody is scared. That’s not a rare case. Only how we deal with it is different. We can either face it with courage and grow, or we can run away and get hurt. You should not ignore your fears. You made an attempt to do exactly what you were afraid of. Take as many steps as possible to reduce or eliminate it.
To reduce your fear, you must have more faith in your ability to deal with whatever comes your way. It is also beneficial if you deal with it on a daily basis. This will give you more courage and allow you to develop and build your confidence.
There is no better way to boost your confidence than to overcome your fears and overcome any obstacles that may prevent you from believing and trusting yourself. Put your fear to good use and grow!